In my experience one of the most important parts of a child’s character to be developed is that of self-esteem and self-confidence.
Although these traits are often viewed as some of the most desirable traits to develop in any child they remain stubbornly difficult to achieve.
The argument over nature vs nurture has raged for many years and whilst applicable to this topic, it is not for discussion today. The truth is this is something that could fill ten blog posts!
Instead, I present three different (and unusual) ways that modern forward-thinking parents can boost their child’s sense of self-worth.
Step 1: Allow them to make mistakes.
Allowing a child to make a mistake is a crucial part of their developmental process. In addition to learning what not to do in the future, making a mistake will also show the child that although not the correct choice, ultimately the world didn’t end, and life goes on.
Obviously, you need to pick and choose which mistakes you allow your child to make. Nothing irreversible or of major consequence should be permitted for obvious reasons. Instead, think of choosing to eat the last cookie vs leaving it for another day.
The point is that by making small mistakes in everyday life the child will gain a sense of confidence as they develop their decision-making skills.
As has been well documented over many years, developing this sense of self confidence is an essential ingredient to the development of strong self-esteem.
Step 2: Be there
The most important part of developing your child’s self-confidence is your ability to reassure them. If they know that you will always be there to back them up when the going gets tough, it will give them a sense of power and reassurance over their own decisions.
Whilst it is not always possible to be there every minute of the day to guide and reassure your child it is important that you make time to be there for the very big moments in your child’s life.
These are moments which carry huge significance and will be remembered for many years to come.
Step 3: Embrace the Power of their Birthstone
Birthstones have long been believed to hold special powers when it comes to self-belief and a general sense of wellness.
My son was born in August and Peridot is his birthstone.
The August birthstone enhances confidence and self-esteem in wearers. It is known to be rejuvenating and invigorating, and it promotes clarity of thought.
When it comes to a special birthday you can bet that I am going to make sure my son gets an extra boost of confidence with a tasteful present of some peridot-based jewellery.
Summary
These are just some thoughts that you can take and adapt to your own situation. Consider them a starting point that you can use to teach your children all about the importance of self confidence and realise that this is one of the most important things you can ever gift to a child.
Caroline Lucas is the Owner and Editor and CrystalsandJewelry.com
